Office etiquette 101 – How to build up self confidence

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Office etiquette 101 – How to build up self confidence

Office etiquette 101 – How to build up self confidence

Beyonce. Oprah Winfrey. Elon Musk. What do they all have in common?

Self confidence.

In order for you to hit that milestone or goal you have lined up, you need to first be confident and believe in yourself.

Conversing with co-workers or speaking up in a meeting can be overwhelming. We start thinking, “what if they don’t like me?” “What if I make a complete fool of myself” “what if I say complete gibberish?”

The truth is, you can never know the extent of your ability if you don’t put it to good use. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to take on new challenges in the office or get recommended for a promotion?

Confidence in the workplace is important for your success. You'll be more motivated and ambitious, less anxious and stressed, and more likely to drive performance, career growth, and work relationships.

Take note: Being brash, argumentative, aggressive, or apologetic is not a sign of confidence. It's also not about you transforming into a completely different person. Instead, it's about standing up for yourself in a way that feels natural to you.

Here are some tips to rack up that self esteem and get moving.

Drop the pessimistic approach

As tempting as it is, stop trying to think the worst possible outcome will happen. One way to overcome this is by connecting with yourself. You cannot give out what you don’t have. You can’t be outwardly positive and inwardly negative. Try taking up meditation , going on solo activities like dates (yes, take yourself out on a date. You won’t die), speaking affirmations every morning, just about anything you can do to build positivity and confidence within you.

Start Small

It can be a tough shift from switching off cameras and mics during zoom meetings to making a proposition at a board meeting in the office. Start by sharing your thoughts and/or concerns in smaller groups, either at work or anywhere else. Getting great feedback from people you are comfortable with is a sure-fire way to boost your self confidence.

Have a role model ..or two

Everything and everyone we come across each day has influence over our lives whether we want it or not. Find someone you know exudes self confidence, either from your workplace or in general. Examine their demeanor and interactions with others. Emulate the good and eliminate the bad.

Fake it till you make it

You can't be expected to know exactly what you're doing when you start a new and challenging task or job. But if you put on a positive attitude and act confidently, you'll be surprised how far you can get. Create your own reality by exuding confidence. You'll get used to the feeling of confidence eventually, but projecting confidence can help you achieve it.

Upgrade your skills and knowledge

When you learn a new skill, you can put it to use at work, which can help you increase your productivity, stay organized, and take on new tasks with more confidence. Ask your boss if there are any courses you can take to boost your knowledge or learn a skill that you believe is holding you back. Identifying areas where you believe you could improve will demonstrate to your boss that you are eager to improve your weaknesses and are willing to go the extra mile to do so.

One Day At A Time

It is relatively easy to fall into frustration, simply because your confidence is not leveling up as quickly as it should. Take it one step at a time. Rome wasn’t built in a day. You will make mistakes, but if you constantly fear to make a single misstep, you may miss out on opportunities that would allow you to further develop your skills. Keep in mind that everything you do is an opportunity to learn. Concentrate on what could have gone better and how to do it better next time.

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Here are some useful information you could use to further increase your confidence level:

TED talk – Confidence

  Harvard Business Review – How To Project Confidence To An Audience

Free Confidence Building Worksheet

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